Archive for February 2009
eHarmony update #10
Last night I had my first “phone date.” It went surprisingly well. He called when he said he would, and was polite, respectful, articulate, remembered things about me, and seemed to be what he portrayed himself to be. The only thing is that he’s not as funny as he claims to be….he didn’t have me rolling in the aisles or anything. He was probably nervous though. After 45 minutes I ended the conversation, because I figured that we had talked enough for one session. He asked if he could call me again this weekend. I agreed and we set up a second “phone date” for 6:30 Sunday evening. At this point, I kind of want to just meet him so I can decide if I’m attracted to him or not, before I spend any more energy. I’m going to leave that up to him though.
I’m also texting with a second guy, and still just e-mailing with a third. I’m enjoying being the one to be pursued for a change. I’m finding that it’s hard to keep the guys straight though, as far as their interests and what they’ve already told me.
I’m still trying to figure out eHarmony’s matching system though. I used to get 6 new matches every day. Then I started getting 8, and then occasionally it would be a lot fewer, like 2 or 3. Then today I didn’t get ANY. Am I running out of matchable guys? That’s kind of sad after only a month.
Add comment February 26, 2009
eHarmony update # 9
Total matches: 222
Closed: 163
I got matched up with another winner today.
Bill, 33
Occupation: good
The one thing bill is most passionate about:
* love God and the opposet sex
Bill typically spends his leisure time:
* making love reading bible
Ok he’s on a dating site….who’s he “making love” with? Seems to me he doesn’t need this site if he already has that. What kind of occupation is “good”? Forget the fact that he’s out of my age and mileage range—another situation that I can’t believe that eHarmony thinks I’m compatible with this person. I mean, seriously, who puts this stuff in their profile? A drug addict?
I’m in one month into my membership and in open communication with 3 very nice guys right now though, so there is some promise. We’ll see where it goes.
Add comment February 23, 2009
eHarmony update # 8
Total matches: 192
Closed: 137
This is an actual match that I received today, ladies and gentlemen.
Hunter, 26
Occupation: I am a dentist doctor
Hunter typically spends his leisure time:
* I like to go to the gym, and go out to eat, and having sexual time set aside for relaxation.
A prank or just a pervert? Either way, this “dentist doctor” is getting closed.
3 comments February 17, 2009
How Was Your Valentine’s Day?
My Valentine’s Day had its ups and downs. My sister’s day was almost all downs. The highlights:
- the night before, while I was attending a benefit concert for a friend going on a mission trip, my car was towed. I could only afford to give $20 to my friend but somehow had to come up with $85 to fork over to Joe’s Towing. Just so you know, they are vultures. There weren’t even any signs prohibiting parking.
- I did get a small box of cheap chocolate from a male friend who received them at work and offered them to me. He seemed like he might have even been up for a Valentine date but I already had plans with girlfriends….and I’m just not that into him anyway.
- My sister’s ex-boyfriend and his current girlfriend, who he dumped my sister for, came into the restaurant where she works and to her line. She avoided him, so he proceeded to text-stalk her the rest of the day.
- My sisters and a couple of friends and I went to dinner, and while we were walking back to the car we were egged by a couple of guys driving around. That’s right, they were driving around, throwing raw eggs at random girls that they don’t know on Valentine’s Day. It’s not bad enough to be single on Valentine’s Day—boys have to throw eggs at us too, just to cap the day. I felt like I was on an episode of Sex and the City. They managed to avoid me, but they did get my sister (the one who had the ex-boyfriend incident also) and broke her phone case and soiled her jeans and boots. Some girls get flowers and candy….we get egged.
The Traveler has decided to make an appearance. He is supposedly coming to my city Wednesday night to have dinner with me and the friend that introduced us. What incredible timing….as soon as I completely give up on him and move on, he decides that he has time for me. Of course, he has made plans before and then canceled them, so we’ll see if it actually happens. I won’t believe it until I see him.
Add comment February 16, 2009
eHarmony update #7
Total matches: 152
Closed: 109
Yesterday I started getting tired of receiving matches that are more than 300 miles away, when that is the maximum I have set. So, I changed my maximum to 120 miles. Today, my matches were even FURTHER away. One guy is in Georgia. I live in Illinois. SERIOUSLY??!! How on earth does eHarmony think that a relationship like that could work?
Add comment February 12, 2009
He’s Just Not That Into You
I went to see the movie Saturday night. I loved it. I’ve already read the book, so I knew what to expect and wasn’t shocked harshly into reality like some women were. I would definitely recommend it to any single woman. I think guys would learn a lot from it (as in, have them see what complete jerks they are much of the time) as well, but I know to not expect them to watch it.
Some of my favorite lines (and I do have to paraphrase, so sorry if I get it slightly wrong):
- We’re told our entire lives that those dipshits treat us like crap because they actually LIKE us.
-We were talking and thought that we’ve never been dumped by a guy, but then we got to thinking about it and realized that every single guy we’ve ever dated broke up with US! They’re soooo smooth at it too—they get you thinking that it was YOUR idea! So why am I alone? “You deserve someone better than me.” “I need to let you be your own person.” “I’m so jealous of the guy that gets to marry you.” FOOL! That could’ve been you!
- I’m glad that I’m not like you. You’re so used to treating women like they’re dispensable that when real love comes along, you don’t even recognize it. And guess what? YOU’RE ALONE.
That last line is something that I would love to yell at The Traveler. I had a dream about the movie and him that night. Of course, the dream had a happy ending, and I said “I’m the exception.” Then I woke up alone….and disappointingly said, “I’m not the exception.”
Add comment February 10, 2009
eHarmony update #6
Total matches: 138
Closed: 95
Memo to David, 24 and Joe, 25:
If you’re not dating right now or are dating someone else, TURN OFF YOUR MATCHING. These are the excuses that they gave to close me. I only get 6 matches a day—don’t waste them for me.
I’m less than impressed with eHarmony so far.
Add comment February 10, 2009
eHarmony update #5
Total matches: 120
Closed: 71
A few guys have closed me the last couple of days…a couple of them closed me before I even looked at their profiles, and a couple closed me after I sent icebreakers. I try to not take it personally, but it’s hard when this person isn’t even interested in talking to you. I just grumble and think to myself “well, you’re no freakin’ supermodel either.”
2 guys actually requested communication with me today. Not overly impressed with either of them, but they’re not bad either and took the initiative so I’ll at least start open communication and see where it goes.
Here’s a sampling of the guys that I closed today:
Steven, 30. Decent profile, with the exception of the part that asks
One thing that only Steven’s best friends know is:
“I’m a spy 
.
Um….I’m sorry, what? Are you really a spy or is that some sort of inside joke? Am I supposed to get that? Because, I have news for you, Steven, your buddies aren’t reading this; potential girlfriends who don’t know you right now ARE.
The thing that turned me off about him though is that I couldn’t tell how old his pictures were. There were some where he looked cute and in shape, and a couple where he looked about 50 pounds heavier. So are these pics 5 years old or what? Sorry, I don’t date hefties.
Jimmy, 26
Some additional information Jimmy wanted you to know is:
“Oh, maybe. But maybe I’d like to know a little more about you first! 
“
Again, um, what? Maybe what? This is YOUR profile, where YOU are trying to attract a mate….don’t be lazy.
I still haven’t heard from the guy that asked for my phone number. Why ask to talk on the phone and then not call? Ugh guys.
My friend Elizabeth signed up on eHarmony last week also. She’s facing similar frustrations as me.
Add comment February 7, 2009
eHarmony update #4
Total matches: 102
Closed: 58
OK, I’m starting to get really frustrated. You’d think that by the time I’ve been “introduced” to 102 different guys, I’d at least be communicating with a few of them. Nope. All of 3 of the 102 matches have expressed any interest in me whatsoever. Either there is something horribly wrong with my profile, or most of these guys aren’t active members but eHarmony still keeps matching them up anyway.
I’ve been contacting 1 to 3 guys every day. Every single guy that I’ve contacted has either ignored me or closed me. What really irks me is when I can see that they looked at my profile, but then didn’t respond or close me. What, are they saving me for when they get REALLY desperate?! I know it’s not for being unattractive. In fact, the one guy that I have gotten to open communication with told me that I’m cute. Still, I’m not so sure that online dating is very good for the self-esteem.
Speaking of the open communication guy, our e-mails went pretty well so he asked if I wanted to talk to on the phone. That made me a little nervous, but I said OK and gave him my number. He said that he was starting a 48-hour shift of being on call at the hospital and would try to call when he could. He texted me at 2AM that night, when I was asleep, saying that he was just leaving the hospital for the night and told me to sleep well. I replied in the morning and told him to sleep well too. That was Sunday morning…haven’t heard from him since. So we’ll see what happens with that, if anything.
I just have to keep reminding myself that it’s only been 2 weeks so I should be patient…
Add comment February 4, 2009
