Archive for March 2009
eHarmony update #20
I’m not sure how many more eHarmony updates I’ll be posting, as things are going extremely well with The CPA and I rarely even log into eHarmony anymore. Usually the only reason I login is to see if The CPA has looked at my profile again. Hey, I like to know that he likes looking at me.
It has been over a week since our date and our next date isn’t scheduled until a week from this coming Saturday. We were both busy last weekend, and he has to work this Saturday, and we live 3 hours apart. He has called me most days though, either for a short “check in” or a long conversation, depending on our time and what else we have going on that night. Yesterday we talked for nearly 3 hours as he drove home from visiting his sister in Minneapolis. Each conversation just keeps telling me that I’d be an idiot to let this guy go. After 2 hours of conversation, this is the dialogue that transpired:
Me: It stinks that you have to work next Saturday.
CPA: Yeah it does. I’m guessing you want to hang out, right?
Me: No, I was just feeling sorry for you.
CPA: Yeah, that’s usually how it goes….mocking me.
Me: Yes, I’m mocking you.
CPA: Well, I might be able to get out of work early if I had a good excuse.
Me: I can give you a good excuse.
And so, there we have another date scheduled before the original date #2, thereby bumping it to date #3. I’m excited. I’m expecting that we’ll make it “official” this weekend.
I love how we joke around:
CPA: I’m very sarcastic.
Me: Yeah, but at least people can tell when you’re being sarcastic and when you’re serious.
CPA: Well, YOU can. A lot of people can’t tell.
OK, so I did kind of have a date scheduled with Bachelor #3 for that day. I had been deliberating over whether to break it off with him or not. Then I found myself telling The CPA that he should get out of work early so we could go out. So….I kind of answered that question for myself. I ended up canceling it.
Add comment March 30, 2009
eHarmony update #19
Saturday was my first date with Bachelor #2. It went VERY well….I’m am a very lucky girl. 
We met at Panera at noon, and I was immediately relieved when I saw him, as he did look like his photos. He wasn’t hiding any body fat like the first guy. He’s not a model or anything, but I found him mildly attractive. I gave him a hug and we exchanged pleasantries. Then we went to the counter to order our food. I played the “wallet dance” where I reach into my purse for my wallet, hoping that the guy insists on paying. Fortunately, he did. We got our food and sat and talked for about an hour, at which point he cleared away my tray. I excused myself to the restroom, and when I came out he was on his phone, just making sure that the museum we were planning on visiting was open.
By this point in time, I felt comfortable that he was who he said he was so I had no problem leaving my car there and riding with him in his. He opened all doors for me, including the car door. He brought his black Mustang convertible and the weather was gorgeous, so we rode with the top down. I loved it. He said that he was glad he was finally getting a chance to use the car for the purpose for which he bought it. Then we went to an aviation museum, and he paid again. After the museum, we went to the zoo. I liked that part a lot. I paid for our admission, and I think he was surprised and appreciative. I figured it was the least I could do. While we were there, a mom with a baby stroller was struggling through a gate and he ran and held it open for her. When I saw that, I thought, “this guy is a keeper.”
After the zoo, we drove over the the trail and went for a walk since the weather was so nice. My shoes weren’t exactly perfect for walking a long distance (I wore ballet flats since he’s only a couple of inches taller than me), but I didn’t mind. I had locked my purse in his trunk, and when we got back to the car he opened the door for me of course, closed it, and then retrieved my purse out of the trunk and handed it to me. I could hardly believe it!
We went to TGI Friday’s for dinner, and again, he picked up the check. He even noticed when my iced tea was running low and asked the server for a refill. I could really get used to this sort of treatment. After dinner we went to a hockey game. My dad has season tickets, so it was free for us to go. We had a lot of fun. I really don’t care about hockey, but it’s a fun date. We somehow managed to keep conversation flowing for the entire 10 hours that we were together….that is officially the longest first date I have ever been on. I think it’s the longest date I’ve been on EVER. It was fun. He drove me back to my car after the game, and I told him that I had a good time and hugged him. He said that he hoped we could keep talking, and I responded encouragingly. Then he waited to make sure I got into my car safely and waved as I drove away.
I was pretty sure that he would call the next day, and he didn’t fail me. He called about 6 on Sunday, and said that he would’ve called earlier but he’d gone for a bike ride and then needed a nap. We talked for 2 hours and he initiated a second date. I’m going to visit him in 3 weeks to celebrate his birthday. We would get together sooner but we both have things going on the next 2 weekends. I said that I was glad that he called, and he said that he was definitely planning on calling but was glad that I was glad that he called!
He called again tonight as well. He only had about 10 minutes in between my getting out of church and him going to a friend’s house to watch 24, but he said that he “wanted to check in,” and that we could talk longer tomorrow.
I had the goofiest grin all day. I keep pinching myself. I didn’t think that real MEN like this existed anymore—men who know how to treat a woman with respect and take care of her, who are kind and appreciate, who are intelligent, funny, financially stable, dependable, hard working, and attractive. I feel like he’s making up for all the crappy treatment I’ve received from way too many guys in the past *cough The Traveler cough*. My Bachelor #2 deserves a real nickname now. He will now be referred to as The CPA.
Add comment March 24, 2009
eHarmony update #18
Bachelor #2 and I are humming along very well. We have quite the date planned out for Saturday. I’m very excited. We also spent over 2 hours on the phone again last night—that makes 6 hours total in the last week. Tonight I’m going shopping for a new outfit to wear.
As luck would have it, Bachelor #3 asked me out for Saturday as well. Very ironic. I went 8 months without a date, and then I get asked out by 2 different guys for the same day. I told him that I have plans. He was disappointed because he’s going to be in Springfield that day anyway, and it’s the only day he has available for a while. I told him that I’m open to meeting for dinner during the week, but he just said that we’ll figure something out.
I turned my matching off a few days ago. I’m barely getting any matches anymore, and I found myself not even wanting to meet anyone new right now. If things don’t work out this weekend, then I’ll probably turn it back on.
Remember the guy that asked how I felt about premarital sex? He never responded to my last communication. Gee, guess he was disappointed with my answer. Sorry bud. That’s how it is.
2 comments March 18, 2009
eHarmony update #17
I’m very excited. Bachelor #2 called again Thursday night for an hour and a half, and then again today for over an hour….and he asked me out. He’s coming down to visit me next weekend, and we’re spending the day together. There’s just something about this guy….I was so pumped for the rest of the night, I could barely sit still. I love that feeling!
Add comment March 15, 2009
eHarmony update #16
Bachelor #2 e-mailed me late Wednesday night, after he got back from the hockey game. He told me what a pleasure it was to finally talk to me on the phone, and that he missed the second period of the game but “it was worth it.”
Then he called me again last night, literally as he was leaving Bible study. I even heard the ding of the key in the ignition of his car. After about an hour or so, I told him that it was late and I probably shouldn’t keep him up any longer. He said that he was fine, and it really wasn’t that late, and we proceeded to talk for another 30 minutes. It’s kind of weird how similar our backgrounds and lives are. We discussed that we’re going to keep talking for a while, and that we plan on meeting sometime in the near future. You never know until you meet in person, but we have really seemed to click over the phone. I’m in a good mood today. I think I could like this one.
Add comment March 13, 2009
eHarmony update #15
I had my first phone date tonight with Bachelor #2. We had been e-mailing on the site for weeks, and he never mentioned talking on the phone. I decided that I needed to make my expectations known early on, so I suggested talking on the phone. He responded enthusiastically, and offered me his number. I told him that I’m a traditional girl and gave him my number, and told him that I was available to talk on Wednesday night. He was at a hockey game tonight with his dad and some friends, and called me at intermission. I thought that was a pretty big deal anyway, calling at intermission, but it became even more impressive when he stayed on the phone for nearly an hour, which is probably 3 times longer than the intermission. The conversation was great, and I like his voice. I could really like this guy. And yes, I do have a good idea about what he looks like….won’t make the same mistake again that I did with Bachelor #1. He wanted to know if I would like to talk again, and even mentioned meeting sometime in the near future. I’m feeling optimistic about this one.
Add comment March 12, 2009
eHarmony update #14
So it’s been 5 days since my coffee date with Bachelor #1, and I hadn’t heard anything from him. This was both a good and a bad thing. It was good because I didn’t want to go out with him again. It was bad because I wanted him to WANT to go out with me again. Well, today he closed me on eHarmony, with the reason, “I don’t feel the chemistry is there.” I totally agree, but am slightly offended that he was the one to close the match.
At least this is an advantage over dating someone that you meet “in real life.” In those situations, you don’t hear from the guy for 5 days and are left wondering why and if he will ever call in the future. Well, now I know.
Add comment March 9, 2009
eHarmony update #13
Total matches: 248
Closed: 201
Yep that’s right….there’s 200 guys out there that eHarmony thinks I’m compatible with, that either the guy or I have decided we are not.
Last night, I had my first date with someone I met online. This is Bachelor #1 that I referred to in my last post. He drove the 80 minutes to my city, and we met at Starbucks. He does seem to be an extremely interesting, genuine, sophisticated, intelligent, kind guy, as he represented himself to be. The only thing is that he chose his pictures TOO well….they did not really represent just how large of a guy he is. I could tell in the pics that he wasn’t skinny, but I had hopes that he was just kind of football-player kind of stocky. I can deal with that….I just can’t deal with obese. He had to have easily been 100 pounds overweight. Now, I don’t want to brag, but I keep in good shape. I’m not Heidi Klum, but I have a healthy BMI and am muscular to boot, and I work very hard to stay that way. This just shows a difference in how we treat our health. Also, I just wasn’t attracted to him. I actually went out with a male model (who’s a great guy too) for a couple of months, so that just shows the level of guy that I’m used to dating.
It’s been 24 hours and no phone call or e-mail for a second date…and I’m hoping that it doesn’t come, because I HATE turning down nice guys. Yes, I know that I’m picky. However, I’m not going to settle just to have someone. I’d rather be single. I’ve done it for 24 years, I can do it for another 24 if need be. I just like to know that I have options.
Still talking to Bachelors # 2 and 3….and another 2 guys requested communication today. One of them I’m actually excited about.
Add comment March 6, 2009
eHarmony update #12
Today’s one and only match was truly amazing. Or not. Introducing Nicholas, 23. Not only is he 4 inches shorter than me, but under “The one thing Nicholas is most passionate about:” he wrote, “My biggest passion in life is to start a family. I can’t wait for this to become a reality for me.”
Why do I just feel like a walking uterus after reading his profile?
2 comments March 2, 2009
eHarmony update #11
Total matches: 242
Closed: 193
I’ve mentioned before that I am talking to 3 eHarmony guys at the moment. I’m going to have to give them nicknames of bachelor #1, 2, and 3.
I had another phone date with Bachelor #1 tonight, which again, went well. At the end, he asked if he could drive out here (90 minutes from where he lives) and meet me for coffee Wednesday night. I agreed….I’m glad about this because we seem very compatible, but I want to see what he looks like in person and if we have any chemistry before I get any more involved. Seeing as I rarely get asked out—and even more rarely by someone I want to ask me out—I’m excited about this. What I like the most about this guy—he’s pursuing ME. He asked to talk on the phone, he asked if he could call me again, and he asked me out and is driving to MY city in order to do it. Oh, and he called when he said he would, which is the first time a guy has actually done that for me. MAJOR bonus points. This is a far cry from the guys that I usually meet, who think that they’re such hot stuff that girls should go to them, but then when I do, they get turned off.
Bachelor #2 and I are STILL just e-mailing on eHarmony. He asked me what my 5, 10, and 15 year goals are, and what I’m looking for in a guy. I told him, and he sent me his as well. We line up very well….so I’m a little confused as to why he hasn’t asked to at least talk on the phone yet.
Bachelor #3 and I are still talking on instant messenger and text-messaging. I’m kind of thinking about cutting this one loose. We don’t have quite as much in common as I do with the other 2 guys, and he’s 2 years younger than me. That’s not a deal-breaker, but 22-year-old guys tend to be fairly immature. He kind of seems to be that way, since we’ve been talking for weeks and he hasn’t suggested meeting yet. I’m getting kind of impatient…I’m not looking for another friend here. Also I’m bothered by the fact that he asked some really personal questions in our last conversation—as in, relationship and sexual history. I’m sorry, but I don’t think you should bring that up before you’ve even had a first date.
a 4th guy requested communication today. I’d actually sent an icebreaker to him yesterday. I’m already seeing red flags, based on the questions that he chose to send me:
How do you feel about premarital sex?
What is your opinion on your mate having opposite sex friendships?
In a marriage how would you feel if the woman made significantly more money than the man?
These sound a little too much for the first things you ask a prospective date. It makes me wonder what exactly he has planned…and why he thinks that I make more money than he does. I can pretty much guarantee you that I don’t.
I think I’m running out of suitable matches. They have definitely been slowing down…I receive NO matches today, yet again. However, it may just work with Bachelors #1 or 2. #3 I don’t think is going to work out…and it’s doubtful about the 4th.
Add comment March 2, 2009
